Tuesday, July 6, 2010

When Love Ends by Jackie Johnson

This book is a very good book for those that are going through a relationship break-up. The author wants the reader to know that though break-ups are hard whether they are after two dates or 10+ years they don't have to destroy you and who you are and why you are here. This book is suitable for an individual or group setting. The author wants the reader to know that there is hope and brighter days ahead.

The book is arranged into 4 parts:

  • Part 1 ~ Twilight takes a look at the relationship as it is fading. How to handle the break-up.
  • Part 2 ~ Night takes the reader into the healing process. Dealing with emotions and giving the essential keys to healing.
  • Part 3 ~ Dawn will bring new hope and restoration. Confidence in making wise choices.
  • Part 4 ~ Day Break moves into the new beginnings, gives the reader a renewed vision. Moving froward into the future

In this book you'll find
Stages of grief
How to deal with a break-up
How to express your grief
Myths about break-ups and truths for countering the myths

Each chapter ends with

  • a prayer
  • Light for the Journey ~ this can be a summery thought about the chapter or something for the reader to dig deeper into studying
  • Illumination ~ there are deeper questions posted to think on
If I was in need of some encouragement due to a break-up I'd turn to this book in a heartbeat and I'd recommend it to anyone that needs relationship break-up encouragement.

Readers can check out the video trailer for this book at here

While most books for singles tell readers how to get the next guy, When Love Ends and the Ice Cream Carton is Empty encourages a healthy healing process. Practical and biblically based, each chapter guides the reader through a metaphorical day of restoration. Twilight recognizes and deals with endings, night validates and grieves the loss, dawn awakens hope, and day is the new beginning based on the solid assurance of Christ.

Jackie M. Johnson is an accomplished author and freelance writer who has a passion for helping people who’ve experienced brokenness. Her first book, Power Prayers for Women has sold almost 200,000 copies. A Milwaukee native and graduate of Trinity International University, Jackie lives in Colorado Springs, Colorado.
You can visit Jackie online at http://whenloveends.com/ and at her blog http://anewdaycafe.blogspot.com/.

Twilight is a time of transition. As late afternoon fades into evening, the vivid colors of day disappear, and the sun, low in the horizon, dips slowly into earth’s edge. In the dimness before nightfall it becomes increasingly hard to see. Soon it will be dark. Likewise, a relationship ending is your own “heartsunset.” Good-bye day; good-bye love.
As early evening settles in, dusk becomes an ambiguous zone. With less light, things can seem uncertain or unclear, like why your relationship ended. Sometimes you are left without the answers or closure you want, and you wrack your brain trying to figure out what went wrong. He was indifferent, he just couldn’t commit, or he was immature. Maybe you were the one who couldn’t do it anymore, and you were just plain done. Perhaps you finally realized that you didn’t really have that much in common after all, or the timing was bad, or he found someone else. Maybe you know exactly why you split up, and it makes you livid, depressed, or resentful. There are as many reasons as there are relationships. There’s always the “I don’t know what I want right now” explanation or the fear factor. Maybe you never had any good role models in your life of what a healthy love relationship or marriage looks like and it scares you to death. You’re afraid to trust because you don’t want to end up in an unhealthy, dysfunctional, or boring relationship—or one
that falls apart again.
I was surprised when a man I’d been getting to know online for a few months sent me an e-mail to break things off by saying, “I was looking at my calendar for the next year and I’m going to be really busy.”Well then what were the past four let’s-get-to-know-each-other-better months about? Was he really busy or was he afraid of a commitment? I guess I’ll never know. Sadly, you may never know the real reason why the person you once shared everything with will now tell you nothing.
Whether the final send-off came gradually or you were blindsided, endings are never easy. Katy and Will enjoyed a year of Saturday night indie films and Starbucks runs before Will shocked her one summer afternoon when he said he couldn’t see himself marrying her. But he still wanted to “hang out,” and Katy,
not wanting to lose him entirely, continued to see Will for six more months—and in the process lost herself and her self respect. Finally, she could no longer endure the emotional turmoil of longing and lack, hoping that one day he would come around. As she began to learn more about her true worth and value, she courageously broke it off entirely.
Unlike Katy’s drawn-out breakup, Chaundra’s ending was sudden. Darren exited as quickly as he entered her life. He was a “comet” dater—burn fast, burn
bright, and burn out. From the day they met at her best friend’s house, Darren called her every day (sometimes two or three times a day). After a few weeks of spending all of their free time together, he just stopped calling. No explanation. The next Saturday Chaundra saw Darren with another woman at a cafĂ© and she was heartbroken.
Then there’s your story. When you end a significant relationship, you may feel a hundred different emotions, from some snarly name-calling or a disillusioned, “I really thought this would go somewhere,” to a despondent, “How am I going to get over him? ”You’re sad, angry, confused, hurt, depressed, and some days you just want to sob with your two new best friends, Ben and Jerry (and their ridiculously good frozen treats).
Everyone responds to loss and pain differently. For some of us it takes longer to absorb the changes, adjust, and begin again. Whether you were together for a long time or a short time, you may have had a close, deep connection. Your personality, temperament, and background all make a difference in how you deal with emotional pain (or don’t) and how long it takes to heal.
If you’re the one breaking it off, you may be hurting someone you care about (or once cared about) and that can bring a host of emotions from guilt and shame to remorse and blame. No matter what the guy says—like the classic, “it’s not you, it’s me”—or how he says it (in person or by phone, fax, letter, e-mail, text, or other electronic media), your relationship has ended .Game over. You’re not together anymore. Now what?

A copy of this book was provided for review by Virtual Book tours
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Cheryl said...

Love the seasonal look of the blog, Abi. Thanks for the lovely review of Jackie's book. I have it with me in NC and want to read it while we are here.

Readers can check out the video trailer for this book at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Td5cqBuh-WQ

Thanks again. I'm glad you enjoyed the book.


Tracee said...

This really does sound like a great book - thanks for the great review. Thankfully I am married so hopefully I won't EVER need this, lol!

Dorothy said...

I am so agreeing with Cheryl...love the look! Great review...very impressed!

JM said...

This looks like a great book. There isn't enough emphasis on mental health programs to help people through difficult times these days, so a healthy process of getting through a breakup is hard to find. I'm happily married now, but I could have used this when I was younger, that's for sure.